Conflict Mediation — Being the Peace Holder

Peer mediation is elementary's peace work. The mediator is not judge but holder. A rushed mediation reveals itself — the parties don't settle. Indirect aim: restorative justice, emotional intelligence, preparation for adult community.

• Framework: Montessori
• Unit: Practical Life
• Learning area: Grace & Courtesy
• Level: Ages 6-8

Objectives

• Hold space for two peers in conflict
• Use the peace rose or peace table protocol
• Help both parties speak and be heard
• Close the mediation respectfully

Materials

• Peace rose or peace table
• Mediator's badge or sash
• Mediation script as a reference card
• Mediation log

Instructions

1. When conflict arises, a trained mediator offers help. 2. All three sit at the peace table. 3. Mediator holds the rose; passes to first speaker: 'Tell what happened'. 4. Listener stays quiet; rose passes when speaker is done. 5. Second party speaks. 6. Mediator asks: 'What do each of you need?' 7. Together, name a resolution. 8. Log the mediation in the class journal.

Educator tip

Train mediators privately for weeks before they go live. The role demands practice. Adults never take the rose away from a child mediator mid-session.

Assessment

Observe impartiality, quality of listening, and the durability of the agreed resolution.

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