Assertiveness Practice

Assertiveness—expressing needs respectfully—is a key social skill that prevents both doormat and bulldozer behaviour patterns.

• Framework: EYFS
• Unit: EYFS Champions of Character
• Learning area: Communication and Language
• Level: EYFS Reception

Objectives

• Express needs clearly without aggression
• Stand up for self respectfully
• Recognise passive, aggressive, and assertive responses

Materials

• Response style cards
• Scenario practise materials
• Assertiveness scripts

Instructions

Teach the difference between passive (not speaking up), aggressive (being mean about it), and assertive (speaking up respectfully). Use scenarios to practise identifying and demonstrating each. Role-play standing up for yourself in common situations: someone cuts in line, someone takes your seat, someone says something mean. Practise assertive responses: 'I don't like that. Please stop.' 'I was here first. Please wait your turn.' Celebrate assertive communication when you observe it.

Educator tip

Help children who are naturally passive practise speaking up, and help naturally aggressive children practise respectful phrasing. Both need coaching toward assertiveness.

Assessment

Assess against Early Learning Goals (ELGs). Document evidence of 'expected' or 'exceeding' descriptors. Note: independent application of skills, ability to explain reasoning, and capacity to build on prior learning. Observe identification of response styles, quality of assertive responses in practice, and transfer to real situations.

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